24 Hacks for Helping Kids Learn to Control Their Anger
Are you looking for hacks to help kids control their anger? If so, keep reading.
1. Tell the learner that it is their behavior that determines whether consequences are positive or negative.
2. Get the learner to make a list of consequences associated with regularly occurring behaviors (e.g., by disrupting others, I will be perceived as unmannerly; by behaving aggressively, I will cause people to avoid me.).
3. Give the learner as many high interest learning activities as possible.
4. Refrain from topics, situations, etc., that may cause the learner to become easily angered, annoyed, or upset (e.g., divorce, death, unemployment, alcoholism, etc.).
5. Provide a routine (schedule) that will minimize erratic or impulsive behavior that may result in negative consequences.
6. Teach the learner techniques to monitor and maintain understanding of their stress and frustration levels (e.g., for instant control: stop, count to 10 using slow deep breaths and try to relax. If needed, remove him/herself from the situation.).
7. Make sure the learner does not become involved in overstimulating learning activities that cause them to become angry, annoyed, or upset.
8. Do not place an emphasis on perfection. If the learner feels they must live up to your expectations and cannot do so, they may become angry, annoyed, or upset.
9. Closely supervise the learner to monitor their behavior at all times.
10. Teach the learner to verbalize their feelings before losing self-control (e.g., “The work is hard.” “Please leave me alone; you ‘re making me angry.”).
11. Separate the learner from the peer who stimulates their unacceptable behavior.
12. Get the learner to list the pros and cons of an action. Urge the learner to ascertain whether the pros outweigh the cons before they take action.
14. Provide instructions in a compassionate rather than a menacing manner (e.g., “Please finish your math assignment before going to lunch,” rather than, “You had better finish your math or else!”).
15. Give the learner a selection of learning activities that can be performed if they become angry, annoyed, or upset.
16. Praise the learner for demonstrating self-control based on the duration of time the learner can be successful. As the learner shows increased self-control, slowly increase the duration of time required for reinforcement.
17. Praise the learner for demonstrating self-control in those situations in which they are likely to become angry, annoyed, or upset: (a) give the learner a concrete reward (e.g., classroom privileges, passing out learning materials, 10 minutes of free time, etc.) or (b) give the learner an informal reward (e.g., praise, handshake, smile, etc.).
18. Reward the learner (e.g., cafeteria, gym, hallway, etc.) for keeping self-control in a particular situation.
19. Get the learner to find the situations in which they are most easily frustrated. After they have identified these situations, have them think of ways to minimize their occurrences.
20. Let the learner attempt something new in private before doing so in front of others.
22. Consider using an adaptive behavior management app. Click here to view a list of apps that we recommend.
23. Consider using Alexa to help the student learn to behave appropriately. Click here to read an article that we wrote on the subject.
24. Click here to learn about six bonus strategies for challenging problem behaviors and mastering classroom management.